Module 10 – Communication Between Mentor and Mentee


  • Practice active listening skills
  • Understand the concept of youth-centered mentoring

Key Points

Healthy communication requires active listening skills. Active listening is about receiving information from the cadet and remaining non-judgmental and empathetic.  How can you be an active listener?

  • Give undivided attention!  Find a time and place that allows you to focus on this cadet. Avoid mixing other obligations with this time and find a location that will not be distracting to either party.
  • Seek to understand!  When the cadet is sharing information, seek to understand.  Ask more questions and try to withhold judgment.
  • What I hear you saying is…”  We all want to be understood.  Show the cadet you are listening.
  • Non-verbals are powerful!  93% of communication is nonverbal.  Show the cadet you are listening with your body language, i.e. head nodding, arms unfolded and eye contact.

Developing a youth-centered relationship is about finding a cadet’s strengths.  This is a fundamental shift away from focusing on a child’s ‘issues.’  With active listening skills and an emphasis on identifying your cadet’s strengths, your relationship will be off to a good start.